Breaking Free: Escaping the Vice Grip of an Abusive Relationship

The Journey from Manipulation to Liberation, and the Imperative Rule of Going No Contact.

A week ago, I was sitting at my laptop googling frantically to find out why I was so brainwashed, and find tools to find the strength to get over the abusive man I’ve been with for 4 years.

Now, just over a week after leaving, I feel more and more at peace by the moment. I am less on edge. I’m more grounded. My nervous system is gradually balancing out. I feel supported and surrounded by love.

And I’m convinced this positive shift would be impossible without one thing — one thing that I want to tell every single person in an abusive relationship:

You have to block them.

You have to go no contact.

If you have children, you need to create a really, really strong support system beforehand and ideally have a middleman — but I’m speaking for the people who don’t share children — since that’s my position.

The Backstory

I’ve been in a relationship with a man for over 4 years. In the beginning, it was a fairytale. We fell hard, and fast. I had butterflies every day, he was perfect.

How could I be so lucky? I would think to myself, laying up all night, unable to sleep because of the excitement I felt.