Don’t Take Relationship Advice From Single People

And maybe don’t take advice from people in relationships either.

This isn't a new concept of course — but today it hit me in a different way. Lately, I have felt overwhelmingly contradicting emotions about my current relationship — actually, that’s also nothing new.

Over the past three years I’ve been flip-flopping about whether to remain in my current relationship or be single.

Not leave for another man. Not leave because I don’t love him. But because every time something bad happens, I call a friend to talk about it…and depending on the friend I call, there’s a completely different outcome on my thought patterns.

This wasn’t who I was before this relationship. I used to feel a lot more stable in my own mind when it came to my romantic partners but as I got closer with my friends, I opened up more about issues I was having with my partner.

The pandemic caused us to become incredibly codependent after spending every waking second together, from working from home together every day to going on trips together and rarely seeing anyone else — there were bound to be challenging times.

Nobody can spend that much time with someone without having some battles — and for the first time, I needed to vent — to someone other than myself, my dog, and my journal.

I found myself calling friends and getting in the habit of venting about all the shit…