Hi Lynda, it sounds like it’s something that he or your mother can’t change, or will not change. You get your answer easily by asking this question too — you already got the answer. It’s a NO — because you know in your heart that they cant and will not change. This answer ends up as a strong yes, in my experience, only if a) you know the person is trying to/committed to/can change — it just is going to take time and patience on your behalf or b) they will not/cannot change but you’re able to live with and accept them as they are. I hope this helps! Thank you for the response ❤ I’m glad you left two relationships that didn’t serve you!