Honeymoon Phase or Narcissistic Lovebombing?

A quick thought on topic this after a great chat with my brother

I just got off a long call with my brother — he just met a new girl and has been seeing her for only a month but is head over heels in love. He is in his 30’s and has dated quite a few women over the years, but has never talked about kids or marriage until meeting this one.

By never, I mean — he got a vasectomy in his 20s. That's how serious he is about not having kids — or at least was.

He even ended his last relationship because she was 100% firm on wanting kids at some point in the next few years and it was too early for him to make that promise to her. Even though he really, really liked that girl — he just didn’t want to risk wasting a couple of years of her precious baby-making years, only to still not want children.

This new gal is different though. He is smitten. On the phone, I could hear the excitement and love in his voice. He was ranting and raving about how eerily perfect everything was and how crazy he thought he sounded for saying he could totally imagine having kids with her. Ahhh, the sweet sweet honeymoon phase.

Like my brother, I never wanted children either, but sometimes you meet your match for offspring, and you just know. Everything in your body is like — this is my mate.