How To Stop Being The Victim

These days, I am noticing more and more people stuck in victim mentality. It has been coming up with family, friendships, and just in general on social media or in the news (which I try to avoid, but it’s inevitable at times).

I’ll start with what it means to be stuck in a victim mentality. Essentially, it’s thinking that everything is happening to you. That it’s not your fault. That it’s out of your control. People like this complain constantly about all the negative things happening in their life (there’s usually a lot) and they don’t take any responsibility for it. This becomes part of their story. Their identity. I can’t do this because someone did this to me. I was bullied. I was abused. I am in an abusive relationship. I don’t have money. I’m too sick to work. And so on…

These can be all really touchy subjects that will no doubt bring up a lot of feelings from many people, which is why I haven’t written about it yet. But, it has come up so much with friends lately and I was actually able to help them see things from another perspective so I want to write about the best tools I used to not be a victim anymore, and share them with you.

Your biggest realization needs to happen first before you change it — it’s up to you.

You’re the one keeping yourself a victim.

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