I completely appreciate your point of view. One has to weigh the pro and cons. As someone who has had my heart broken many times by cheaters - there was one relationship I think it would have been better had he not told me. It was an honest mistake but it broke us, he was completely wrecked at what he did and we tried to make it work but I never saw him the same way. What could have been a glorious bond, was broken. I’ve seen this before and although it is rare, it does happen. It traumatized me so much that for all future relationships I’m unable to trust and still working on that.

I think that infidelity can be forgiven, but each relationship is different and there can be circumstances where it’s best to keep quiet, let it go and not push your guilt onto your partner. That is only if you truly do love them and feel it was a horrible mistake.

If there were diseases or pregnancy involved? That’s a whole other story! Of course there will be factors where you must tell. I’m definitely not saying you should never come clean. There are just circumstances where maybe you shouldn’t. In my opinion of course