It’s Not Narcissism— Stop Bullying People & Making It Worse

Back with another unpopular view for you!

I like to play devil’s advocate. I always have. I very much dislike when someone is misjudged or when people act with hatred rather than compassion, empathy, and love – so I find myself wanting to be a voice for the underdog.

As you can probably guess, I was the underdog and still feel like the black sheep in many ways, so I know how alienating it can feel to be misjudged. Mislabelled. Misunderstood.

When someone makes a judgement or has a strong opinion about something, I often feel compelled to challenge it because, at some point in my life, I learned that this is how you become really confident in your own opinions.

There have been countless times where I would voice my opinion, someone would challenge it with such a fantastic argument that I would be left there feeling stupid. Thinking…how could I not think of it from that perspective? Man, I’m dumb!

So after this occurred enough times, I chose to surrender to having really strong opinions about anything until I saw it from as many perspectives as possible. Thinking of it as something more liquid. Something flexible and changeable.

It was hard to get there, letting go of my ego and admitting when other people's opinions felt more right than mine, but now that I’ve made that shift it’s so liberating. It has caused me to feel more well-rounded. It has caused me to learn so much. It has also…