I’ve Been In a Sexless Relationship For A Year — Here’s What I’ve Learned

Well, come to think of it — it has actually been more like a year and a half — But who’s counting??!!

Some of you will be shocked by that, and some of you will be able to relate. For us, there was so much stress during the pandemic that our sex life was already dwindling, but it dropped off completely when I found out I was pregnant and had an abortion.

For me, I felt foolish. I knew never wanted children of my own, I took precautions my entire life, and there I was at 32, pregnant for the first time from one slip-up. I felt so ashamed.

For my partner? I can’t really speak for him — but he didn’t want to go through it again and was too afraid to get a vasectomy, so he simply stopped having sex with me.

I tried to come onto him many times to no avail. Time after time, I was rejected. I tried talking to him about it, and he told me he wanted to have sex, but it never happened. He never tried to initiate anything intimate with me, and here we are a year and a half later…

As 2022 is coming to an end, I realized it will be a full calendar year with no sex — and I’m not talking about just intercourse — there was also no oral, no touching, no nothing. A few kisses here and there, but no hot and heavy makeout sessions like we…