Letting Go Of Assuming The Role Of “Mother” In Your Relationship

A sign that you need to mother yourself first.

I’m in my 30s and I met the man of my dreams nearly two years ago now — but somehow it’s not working out the way we both envisioned it. We argue every day and we just can’t seem to get in the same page. so many relationships have ended during the pandemic, in part because well — nobody has really spent THIS much time with one human, and I’m taking that into account, but I’m also very stubborn and I like a challenge — so here we are, still together.

Is it the right choice? I feel like time will tell. But the biggest thing I’m noticing is that there is a lot of work I still have not done and I’m willing to do it, but I’m not sure I’m doing it right.

A little backstory first…

I was completely blindsided when I met this man — I was in a four and a half year relationship with someone who had really just become my best friend. We were already in the process of moving apart from each other but remaining friends. I needed some passion in my life and he needed to become more independent, so we really worked together and supported each other on achieving that individually.

The new guy came out of nowhere during this process and it felt as if I had magically manifested him— he was everything and more than I thought I could ever find in a partner. There was the intellectual connection, the laughter, the adventure, the independence, the…