Narcissism Is Trending — And I’m Not Buying It Anymore.

I’ve spent the last year and a half researching narcissism so much that my gmail sends me something daily on the topic…sometimes a couple times in a day with titles like: “5 things you should be aware of when you meet a narcissist” or “how I left my narcissistic boyfriend”.

The reason I got so into researching it because I was pretty deep into believing my current partner is a full blown narcissist after learning about what it was and analyzing the shit out of him, but also in being warned by his ex partners.

I have a background in psychology, but I had never really researched narcissism and didn’t know much about it — I felt like everyone else was already a pro and very sure that they could spot a narcissist from a mile away, yet I was completely naive.

The biggest red flag was that his ex partners, and a couple people who knew him actually warned me about him, labelling him things like a narcissist and a sociopath. They gave me tips on how to deal with him, like using the “grey rock method” and advising me to ease out of the relationship slowly. It was apparently very important if I was going to end the relationship – for him to think it was his idea. So many rules with this narcissist thing.

At the time, I was buying into it, I had come from a nearly 5 year relationship with the nicest guy on the planet who was basically the opposite of all the definitions of narcissism, so this was a pretty big shift in dynamic for me.