Right, I agree. Narcissism goes further and there are many different “levels” and “types” of narcissistic people. My point though is that they don't need to be given the power over us. It’s easy to label someone a narcissist but thats not helpful. What's helpful is learning the behaviours that are emotionally abusive and building up the tools and self-confidence to not allow those people to take over your life. So many of us lack autonomy and the ability to set appropriate boundaries and respect ourselves, and not let ourselves be taken advantage of. Someone can only manipulate you, cheat on your, or emotionally abuse you — if you let them. It’s your choice to leave. It’s your choice to respect yourself. Yet many people stay, because leaving is hard. I hope this makes sense! I just want to empower people who are victims of abuse to know that it’s not them, and they can get out and find someone who does respect them, even if that person ends up being themselves only.