Sometimes the crying is showing codependence. I’ve been in this position before and seen people that I coach in this position as well. They always, always cry when their partner leaves and chooses themselves. That's not healthy! Playing victim all the time is not congruent with a healthy relationship, people must be able to support each other individually as well. Hope this makes sense. There is a supportive way to handle it. Explain to them that you’re not abandoning them, but you must go play hockey, for your own mental health. It’s totally fair ❤