Thanks for the response!

I did quit actually. I set the date to drink until the end of September but quit early in august instead because of all the anxiety, depression, physical symptoms and the fights with my partner. Luckily, he quit too because he can be really really nasty when intoxicated!! It sounds like your partner isn’t keen enough on quitting, it has to come from her unfortunately. So I would suggest you set boundaries for yourself- protect yourself. If she’s drinking? You won’t engage with her. Period. Make some rules around it to protect you. I’ve had to leave multiple times when he was drunk and being alone with his thoughts were the only things that helped! Good luck, have you written about it? Or better yet- talked to her about it in a non judgemental way? ❤️