Thanks for the response, I disagree! What I see is a lot of people who are calling themselves victims and as you just said "enslaved" - I don't know about you - but I don't want to be enslaved. So with proper boundaries for myself and compassion for my partner, and grace towards him and his trauma - theres a HUGE opportunity for growth and bonding. I am not a victim, I'm not enslaved, I'm choosing to do the work - and I'm choosing to help him do the work, but I'm also not allowing him to disrespect me. Boundaries sister! You don't need to be a victim. The work isn't easy, but its necessary for healing. Thanks for the reponse!