The Real Solution To Narcissism — Help The Narcissist.

Michelle Love
6 min readNov 11, 2022

Apparently, at the root of narcissism is insecurity- so can’t we solve this by helping them feel secure?

I’ve written a few articles on narcissism after going down a rabbit hole of research when not just one, but two of my boyfriend's exes warned me about him being a narcissist.

I’ll be honest – at the time, I didn’t really know what it meant to be a narcissist. I figured it was a casual term for someone who was self-obsessed and cocky– but as I researched I learned that it was so much more than that.

I became increasingly afraid.

This man I was with checked all the boxes.

Was I trapped? Was he going to hurt me? Was I ever going to be the same person ever again?

Being the empathetic person that I am — like many others who are in relationships with narcissistic people — I felt stuck. I felt there was no way I could leave this person. I wanted to help, I felt so bad for him and felt horrible guilt when I stuck up for myself.

Then, when I finally worked through the guilt with my therapist, I started to consistently stick up for myself and set boundaries I got even more scared…

Wait — Was I the narcissist?

It took me over a year of deep diving, counseling, witnessing patterns, testing alternatives, and listening to…



Michelle Love

My public journal about all the things I’ve been through & learned - with the hope that it benefits you. 🤍 Love is the answer