Why Narcissists Get Pleasure or Angry When You Cry — And What You Can Do About It

They either get angry when you cry or they enjoy it and show contempt — either way it's emotionally abusive and needs to be addressed

Aside from my therapists, the only people who have seen me cry are a couple of family members and my boyfriends over the years.

When it comes to my family, they only ever responded with anger. It’s all I knew.

Growing up, when I would cry my mother used to say “what’s wrong with you?” In an annoyed, judgemental, and angry tone.

Either that, or she would have my stepdad drag me out of the room by one arm, throw me into the bedroom and slam the door. If I tried to leave my room, sneak back to the living room and beg for my mom to hold me, I would find that they had locked me out.

I figured out how to pick the lock, but I still didn’t get the attention I was hoping for. I was only screamed at louder, hit, and then thrown back into my bedroom.

Sometimes this repeated for what felt like hours — I didn’t know what else to do.

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My maternal and only grandmother didn’t even let the tears start. As soon as I would start to well up she would say, “stop that right now or you can leave”. She was a stern woman, but she was the only sober person in my family and I looked up to her because of…